Bebo is one of the sweetest most responsible young people that I know. He is 13 years old about to turn 14. That being sad, he is not happy with me....not happy with me at all.
Bebo has a myspace profile. I asked for his password and he did not want to give it to me.
Do I believe he is hiding something from me? No I do not.
Do I think he is plotting to over throw the world? No I do not. (though, if he is and does, I am afraid that I may be beheaded).
Do I think that there are bad people out there that pose as teenagers? Oh yes I do.
Bebo is very responsible with our computer as far as I know. I do not have any reason to think that he is not. I tried to explain to Bebo that I totally trust him and that this is not a *him* thing. That did not go over well and, if I were 13 years old, I would not be buying it either. However, it really is not a *bebo* thing....it is a big wide world thing. A world filled with good people and bad people. At 43, it is hard for me to tell them apart at times. I do not want to let my son fall prey to some pervert on the internet when there was something...anything that I could have done to prevent it.
So, he gave me the password. He did not want to. I also have the password to his email account. Have I ever been in his email to poke or prod? No. If I were ever suspicous that there was a problem would I? Yes I would.
Before I got this job, I thought that the world was good and kind and that evil was always black.
Now I know better.
Perverts look like bankers, ice cream men, waitresses, preachers, day care workers and probation officers. They look just like you are me. If would be great if they all looked greasy and wore trench coats for ease of exposure but, they don't. We could look up and say *Oh look, a sex offender.*.
Now, we have the internet. It is sometimes hard for me to comprehend that the person that I am corresponding with may not REALLY be who they say they are. The net is so good at helping us to hide our identity. Do you weigh 250 lbs? Not on the net....you can easily be a slim 125 lbs. Not as beautiful as Kate Hudson? You can be behind YOUR computer monitor.
So you will know that this is not one sided....I offered my passwords to Bebo. I have nothing to hide.
Am I being an overprotective mother bear?
So, how do you monitor the computer at your home? Do you have the passwords to your children's accounts?