Friday, February 03, 2017

IT'S PRONOUNCED *WE*

I work hard to make the world a smaller place.  I love doing my swaps and, months and years later, seeing people that were once paired up still being friends on facebook.   I have had several wonderful opportunities to meet people in person from other states and countries all due to facebook and blogging.   I also consider some people I have never met yet, important parts of my tribe.  My mom has always said that I have never met a stranger.  I am like my daddy in that regard.   In fact, she has admonished me when we go into someplace new to basically *keep my mouth shut and don't cause attention*.  She says that in love because she is a horrible introvert.  I know that it is some times hard to be around me.

And so, when I received a message from Rachel on Tuesday morning around  7:50am asking me if I was up to going to a No Ban No Wall protest in Lubbock that night, how in the world could I refuse?  I do not know if I have ever refused to do anything Rachel related.  Something wonderful always comes out of it or, we at least get a really good story.

Plus, she knows THE best places to eat.

That day I had to really think and reflect on a whole lot of things.  I did not take the protest lightly.  I needed to sort out my feelings and the beliefs that have been running around in my head for months.  I think people think (know) I talk a lot so they believe that they know all about me.  I am an open book but I do not tell you what pages you really ought to be looking at.   However, I will tell you anything you want to know if you just ask.

So, I spent the morning sorting out my feelings and my anxieties.  By noon I was at Dollar Tree (WWWHHHAAATTT you say?!?!?!  lol) and I bought my first EVER poster boards to make protest signs.  I am 54 years old people.  I already had the Sharpies so I figured that was a sign.  Man, I do love me some Dollar Tree.

It was peaceful for the most part.  The people who was hosting the protest asked that people keep it clean because there would be families there.   Lots of signs.  Police on the perimeter.  Rachel and I protested about an hour and then we left to go eat.  I mean, protesting is rough and we had to get our blood sugars back up.  At supper, I got to meet another of Rachel's friends who I felt as though I had known forever.  I got almost as much out of supper as I did the protest. 

So.....these are some of my thoughts:

* The older I get, the less I believe that the government is for us.  I do not really think that US citizens play a role in decisions that our government makes.  If so, I believe it is rarely.  I do believe that there are good politicians still out there.  I did not vote for him.  I did not vote for her.  My candidate either 1) did not get that far or 2) did not run.  I have held this view about the government for a long time.

* This ban, as it stand right now, is wrong on so many levels.  I am not saying that I would have accepted it if all of the countries from that part of the world were on it but it would have made more sense if we are truly doing it to ensure our safety.  More threats/potential threats have come out of Saudi Arabia.  If there was a list to be had, they should have been on it.   Our vetting process is really good.

*Our deportation process however, is pretty sucky.  Did you know that you can make bond if you have been picked up by ICE?  Yes you sure can. 

* Someone ought to start selling cool protest sticks to put your signs on.

* I love a good conspiracy theory.  LOL  I do not believe most of them, but I am fascinated by them.

* I have no problems with people protesting anything as long as it is peaceful.  When it crosses the line to threats, violence, destruction and looting....you are no longer a protestor.  You are a thug.   I absolutely loved the women's march and how it was conducted.  I abhorred Madonna's speech and felt as though it sullied up the meaning of the march.

* Celebrities do not speak for me.   

*I respect the office of the President.  I will not bad mouth the President. That does not mean that I have to support him or any policies that I do not agree with.  I have been shocked and appalled by a lot of things (most things)  that he has said.  I do not like the manner in which he speaks most of the time.  However, if I stoop to that level and become condescending, rude or vile..... I am not any better than he or anyone else is that is like him.  I want him to successfully make good decisions based on proven facts.  If he fails, we ALL will fail.   Also, yes, he IS our president.  We don't have to like that at all but we look like we have lost our cotton picken minds when we says that he is not.

* I believe that the biggest plan out there right now is divide and conquer.  It is working and we need to wake up and stop a lot of our behavior and become WE THE PEOPLE again.  We can have total differing opinions and still be respectful and kind.  We need to learn to sit and talk.  While I was at the protest, there was a lot of families with younger children there.  Several used the protest as a teaching experience.  One of the chants was *Tell me what democracy looks like.  THIS is what democracy looks like.*  I head the young boy next to me ask his dad what democracy is.  The father bent down so that he was eye to eye with his son and explained to him what it was and why he was choosing to be there.   That is something Camille would have done.

*One chant was *No Justice....No Heat!*  I told Rachel I did not understand that at all and that I must have missed what the meaning of heat was.   She gently told me that it was *No justice...no PEACE!*  Well alrighty!  That makes so much more sense!

* And we wonder why I was never a cheerleader.

* We have become a nation of mean spirited people who believe that their way is the only way.  There were young men in trucks that kept going around and around the block shouting obscenities at the crowd.   They were very vile and condescending.   I kept thinking *what if you looked up and your mom was right there in the crowd.*   When did it become ok to be like that?  To verbally castrate people that have opposing views? 

* If Rachel says that you will like someone, you will.

* I love police officers and believe in them. lol I love one dearly.  They were wonderful that night and keep everyone safe.  One girl was eventually arrested because she kept getting into the street and obstructing traffic.  They kept telling her to stop.  She was a little over zealous and they had to take her in.  They were very polite at all times.  There were reportedly over 1,000 people there and that could have gone bad quickly so they were very on guard.   The protest even put a positive spin on the young lady's arrest.  They jokingly said it made the protest more legit.  lol

* The media lies.  The story about the police about was totally distorted by the time the media reported it. I listen to local news and then I get my real news from other sources. I believe in research.... research.... research and do not share or post everything you read on facebook.  

* The wall will not work.  If it is built, we will pay for it.  All the wall will do is to keep out people who are desperate to leave their country for a better life.  It will not stop the cartels and truly unwanted people from coming over into our Country.  I cannot even begin to wrap my head around having to flee the USA to go to some place better.  This has always been the better country. We were brave. We have kicked ass when needed.  We have always welcomed others here because we were fully aware that this was the best place in the world to be.  I hear people say *well I wish people were rioting for the homeless or vets.*   I ask those people what THEY are doing about either of those situations.    Normally they are doing nothing but pointing fingers.  I wish this administration WOULD make better policies about veterans care and the homeless.   No administration seems to really care.  I am going to miss avocados. 

* If you believe that we are a Christian nation founded on religious principles, you cannot say "but we have to take care of ourselves first".

*  I believe that governments like people poor and on welfare because it is a way to control them.  They would fix/enforce the system if they really wanted people to better themselves. 

* I believe that if you are truly pro-life, you should be ashamed of the ban and the wall. 

*  I believe you and I can change this....even if we do not believe in the same things.  I think we can sit down over tea and talk things out and figure out what in the hell is going on, why do they want to divide and conquer us and what is it that we are going to do about it.

* Holy ground can be anywhere.  I got to see Muslims pray in the middle of the protest.  They were surrounded by all races, religions and non-religions.  I even found out where the book of Alma comes from. 

* I am not sure why it took me this long to start protesting since Sharpies are a major part of the whole process. 

* I also know that I look like a Joe Dirt extra in my protest pic.



And...I cannot wait to do it again. 

Your can find Rachel's recollections of the protest HERE.  

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

WHEN SHE WAS GOOD, SHE WAS VERY VERY GOOD BUT......

This has been a weirdly difficult week for me.  I am working hard at not being all butt hurt and feeling sorry for myself. When I feel sorry for myself, I begin to feel selfish.  Feeling selfish makes me doubt myself and put myself down.  That in turn,  makes me nuts.  I am already walking the crazy tight rope as it is.  I hate how I am feeling.

Wash, rinse and repeat.

While I am working on myself and my attitudes, I decided to write out a handy list for y'all to print out and keep up with when dealing with me.  ;)   You might want to make an extra copy.

        THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT  SAY TO  MINDY

1.  This too shall pass.    Please.....please....for the love of all that is good and holy.  If you do not want to make me lose my shit all up in this place....do not speak those words out loud to me.  I would rather you leave 12 shopping carts around my car all willy nilly in the Wal Mart parking lot than tell me those words.  Yes, this may pass.  It might not.  But, what ever  happens, I will handle it......just like I always have.
* My children and my brother think it is HILARIOUS to say this to me now.  I think it is because they enjoy seeing me twitch. 

2.  Everything happens for a reason.  I don't believe this.  I do believe that, despite how awful something might be, we can try to make positive things occur out of the chaos. 

3.  When are you going to find a man and settle down?   ~gives you a look~  You don't know me very well do you?

4.  God is always in control.  Again, something I do not believe.  I am a Christian and do believe that God can always be in control.  However, due to free will, he is not.  If God was in control, we would not have to sit through this bizarre election season. 

5.  You need to _( fill in the blank )_.  If you see a problem, I suggest that you fix it yourself.  I am 53 years old and I am pretty darned smart.   I do not need you to run my life.  Okay, that might be a lie.  I might need you to run my life but you are going to have to pay all my bills in exchange.

6.  Love the sinner but hate the sin.  Pardon me, this is a no high horse parking zone.  You are going to have to move on along and find a 24 hour self righteous parking garages.  It is a very busy area so it might take you awhile.

7.  You must have a foot fetish with all of those foot pictures you post.  Actually no, feet are not my fetish.  However, I do like my own feet.  But not in a LIKE LIKE kind of a way.   As I have explained before, my feet normally look really good.  My hair and face on the other hand, not always photo ready.  It just became a thing for me.  Makes for some great shots. It has also made me remember some memories more vividly.  I am always looking for unique things that I can photo with my feet in the pic.  It makes me more in the moment.   On face book, I normally lose a *friend*  when I post a foot selfie.  However, it becomes a smash hit number one search if I post one on the blog.  It follows closely behind the *Amarillo hookers* search.  I swear I have never been a hooker....in Amarillo or any place else.

8.  Well, at least you already got to _(__fill in the blank___).  That doesn't make it any easier.  When I give up something for you, your response should be Thank you very much. You do not have to gush or thank me profusely.  Nor is it my place to make you feel better about me having to change my plans to help you.  Your justifying it *because I have already gotten to do it before* is not a proper thank you.

9.  It was never supposed to be like this.   No, it wasn't. That makes me sad too.    I am not sure how it was supposed to be.  I know that we have to make the best of what we have.  If we do that, we can have a happy productive life.  If we don't, well, it is rather long and hard with all the fretting, worrying and magical thinking isn't it?

What would be on your list?





If magical thinking worked, I would have a whole herd of llamas and unicorns.  I would have the non-spitting llama variety.  They also would not poop.  Not in the constipated way. And I would have lots of money.  And Ann Richards would be President.  But she would be like 60 years old.  

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

I'D LIKE TO BUY THE WORLD A COKE

"We do not see things as they are.  We see things as we are.*  ~Annais Nin

When I was around 11 or 12 years old, my family lived in Post Texas.  On the weekends, it was perfectly normal for me to spend the night at one or the other sets of grandparents.  One Friday night found me at my maternal grandparents.

We called them Mama and Dad.  Later, after my parents became grandparents, they took on the name Mama and Dad and the originals became Big Mama and Big Dad.  Big Mama was not amused in the least.

I don't blame her.

That night we had eaten coke floats.  The coke came out of those little glass bottles.  I was sitting on her orange nagauhyde couch.  The one that you stuck to in the summer time.  I am sure that we were watching something totally inappropriate and not allowed by my mom.  Plus, it was past my bedtime. This is the grandmother that would have let me get away with murder.  She introduced to those *true* crime magazines, harlequin romances and the twilight zone. 

Big mama was also the one that *secretly* smoked cigarettes and thought that my grandfather did not know.  She kept a jar of her butts under the couch in the living room.  She would smoke outside and then run and put the butt in the jar so that big dad would not see them.  We went to town on Wednesday's because she had a standing hair appointment and then we would go get groceries at the Piggly Wiggly because it was double stamp day.  One the way home, she would light up.  She would smoke all of the way home until we got to the cattle guard at their place.  She would then stop, while still smoking, and spray me, the car and herself down with a big can of Aqua Net.  Sometimes, I wonder how I survived childhood.....are how much smarter I might have been if brain cells had not been killed off at such an early age.     

That Friday night we were watching the first part of the news when the reporter stated that a State Trooper had been beaten to death that night while on patrol in Post Texas.  That was the first time I can remember feeling my blood run cold.  My daddy was the only one working that night.

I ran to the phone to call my mom.  Her first words were *Why are you not in bed?*.   She had not called to tell us anything because she thought that we were asleep.  My daddy was not dead but had been injured.  She had spoken to him and he was still out working a road block.

He had stopped a car out in the country while out on patrol that night.  There were two juveniles in the car.  Turns out, the car was stolen.  The two young men jumped my daddy and beat him with a club.  He bore a score over his nose for the rest of his life.  It also caused him to lose most of his hearing in one ear.  The older of the two tried to get his gun.  Daddy told me that the older teen  told the other kid that they had to kill him.  They wrestled for awhile.  The younger man finally talked the other out of it.  They left my daddy laying there.  My daddy knew the younger man had saved his life.  They were eventually caught. 

It doesn't matter what color they were.

Many people in my family and extended family are in law enforcement or some part of the judicial system.  Many of my friends are officers. I have a son that is about to become an officer.   I myself have been in a branch of the judicial system for almost 20 years.  I have had the privilege of knowing many good people who want the best for all people.  I have seen bad people in my line of work.  That happens in all lines of work.  I still believe that the good outweighs the bad. 

Maybe I am not smart enough to understand all that is going on in the world right now.  I know that there are layers upon layers that need to be sorted out and worked on.  I do not know if we start with those layers or if we just go straight to the core.    I have noticed that you get into trouble if you voice something contrary to popular opinion.   I also understand that we have a ways to re-learn how we should be and to make everyone equal.

Last week I was told that *I live in a fantasy world.*  I agreed that I do and it works well for me.  I still believe that good is going to win.  That the light will always shine.    That people can change.  That love can be bigger than hate.  I believe in black, blue, brown, yellow, white.  I believe in hearts.  I believe the world is bat shit crazy but, we can survive it.   And, by me believing in all of that, it does not diminish ANY OTHER CAUSE. 

One of my favorite quotes is at the top of this blog.  When I first read it, it changed so much for me.  All of what we know is what and where we have come from.  We look at every experience colored with our own histories and backgrounds.  That is alright as long as we know that is what we are doing and try to step outside of ourselves and see things though another lens.  We can only do that by listening.  Truly listening.  The violence and the killings make us deaf.  

I am up to friendly discussion because I do want to learn and make things better.  Feel free to leave a comment.  No negativity please.  We can talk and discuss freely.  I want to try to see through your eyes. 

 It has to get better.....I have too much left to do.
 




.......Any views expressed in this blog are mine and mine alone. 

Thursday, June 30, 2016

HAVE YOU MET MY FRIEND....JULIE?

1.What is your first memory of me?
I remember meeting you at the probation office....not because I was on probation but because I went to visit my aunt who worked there. We didn't say much to each other....but I knew you were cool.

ME: I can remember you and your sister walking up and down the hall. I cannot remember ever talking to you. I remember YOUR HAIR! I knew you totally were related to your Aunt. The first time I remember praying for you was when you and Marg were going to Lubbock and your car blew off of the overpass. I know you have been here 2 times since we have gotten close and I missed seeing you both times! For someone I love so much, I never get to see you. lol I love it when you random text me. Especially pics. My favorite in all the world was the one of Bish titled the new general manager of wal greens.
2.Tell me all about your job and why you love/hate it?
I'm a sociology professor....and I LOVE, LOVE my job. I think I could have been a career student, if money was no object. So, being an instructor is the next best thing. My dad always says he can't believe people pay to listen to me talk....Bc I've ALWAYS TALKED. I can honestly say that I love what I do and what my discipline has to offer people. I try to be who I am in and out of the classroom-which means that sarcasm is constantly dripping. I strive to be the most authentic person I can possibly be. I truly want to get to know my students and because of that I feel that sometimes, that requires that as an instructor, I have to show some vulnerability-whether they means sharing a personal experience, dragging my spouse into a class (he willingly agreed) so that students could ask questions about our marriage and family and even admitting that "I don't know"...but am willing to partner with my students so that we can learn together.

ME: I think you are perfect for your job! I love when you share notes your students leave you. I have known some of the things that you have gotten to do and my heart swells. You are one of the ones that is truly changing the world.
3.Who is your hero and why?
There are so many people....my parents are the smartest people I know...I didn't ever think that growing up....then I had kids. They have managed to form a great relationship with each of their kids and I hope to do the same with mine. They really, truly love each other. The best thing my dad has ever done for me is loved my mom the way that he does....and because of that we've all won.
My husband-he's overcome a tremendous amount and is still probably one of the most selfless people I know..I always tell him it's because of God's grace he is who he is. Plus, lately with a newborn, he tells me to go take a nap....and that's pretty heroic. He's makes me laugh and he wants good things for us-always.
ME: I know your parents were just out there with y'all. I love that your Dad got out there before your Mom and you have him babysitting. We were lucky with the Daddy's that we got. I love your husband and have never met him! lol

4.Which is your favorite tat and why?
I have a cross on my left ankle. It reminds me that things are far greater than me.

ME: You did not follow directions and send me one. LOL It's all about the new baby, isn't it??? Since you did not send me a pic, I am forced to use this one.


5.If you could host a dinner party and invite 5 women, (alive, dead or fictional) who would you invite?
Gloria Steinem, Jane Elliott (she's the teacher who did an eye color experiment with her classroom), Mary Magdalene because I'd like to hear her story from her, Murphy Brown, and Mother Teresa.

ME: That is a great list. I love that you would invite Jane Elliott. I had never thought about her on the guest list but she would be fascinating.
6.Your worst habit?
I bite my nails....when I'm nervous:...which apparently has been the majority of my life.

ME: Stop it! There, I fixed that for you. Just pretend you have on your Spanx. HAHAHA!

7.What do you collect?
I have a bazillion crosses......I JUST now made the connection that I also have a cross tattoo....it's only been 20 years!

ME: Me too!! I did not know that!

8.Favorite saying and why?
To laugh often and much; To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; To appreciate beauty; To find the best in others; To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; This is to have succeeded.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
I love this.....I read it at a senior graduation banquet where I was the guest speaker in college and I also read it to a dear friend about 5 years ago. She was dying and the last time I spoke to her, I told her that she had made a difference in my life and that I would do anything to make things better for her....and she told me to stop crying....that "everything was going to be okay." It was okay.....I miss her tremendously and think about her every day. This just reminds me that success comes in so many different ways-even when we don't realize the impact of your actions.
ME: On honey, I love the story about your friend. What a perfect thing to read to her. If you blogged, you could write a whole story about that. hint....hint...
9.Scrambled eggs or over easy?
In a burrito-scrambled....with bacon and egg, please. I also heart them over easy.....I love eggs and could eat them every single day. Actually, I think I do eat them....every.single.day.
ME: I pretty much eat them every day. Over easy *ggaahhh ggaahhh* how special.
What do you eat on them?
If you have a burrito-you need salsa or pico and some sour cream. (And don't give me that non-fat sour cream-turning up nose-)
Me: We don't have non-fat sour cream in Texas. You really ought to come back.
10. If you could put a tat on me, what would it be and why? Where?
# A hashtag.....because by putting this symbol in front of something, you add people.....or people can find you. you're always near.....and I know I can always tag you in when I need you and I heart that.

Me:  Well hell, my eyes are leaking now.  I am always here for you sweetie.  Anytime, unless it is late.  Then I won't hear my phone but I will get back to you in the morning.  Unless, I forget to hit SEND and then it will be a few hours after I wrote the original text.  But, you knew that already.


Seriously, I love you big bunches.  You are tribe.  You don't judge me and you hold my secrets.  You change the world each and every day.  I love being able to call you my niece.  


I am still a little miffed that you did not name the baby after me. However, I do think you would have let me deliver if I had been in Florida.   Maybe the next one??





Thursday, June 23, 2016

WE ARE MISSING DONATELLO


They drove up and all tumbled out like a car load of puppies last night around 8:30.  The cats slink around with crazed eyes. The corgis are BEYOND ecstatic.

The grands are here.

It is 7:00 am as I write this.  They are sleeping and it is peaceful.  I know it won't be long until they are all wide awake.  Their energy knows no bounds.  I brace myself for it.  You really never know what it going to happen.

Their energy is infectious and I need it.

They were all there baptisted last Sunday.   Since then, one has gotten into big trouble for saying really bad words he learned at vacation bible school.  One is sporting a big scratch from a fight with one of his brothers.  

Isn't that just the way it is with Christians?  We scrap and scrape and love.

We think that they might need to be re-dipped seasonally.  

Today, the five of us are starting out on an adventure. We are all getting into one car and going to San Antonio.  Fiesta Texas, HERE WE COME.   We have packed sandwiches to eat at a road side park.  We have our snacks ready.  I have packed shorts.  Only shorts to wear on my legs.  IF you know me, you know that is big.  I have packed my frog togg.  I am expecting to melt.  I am used to packing a bag and just going.  Just taking care of me.  This is different.  I have to remember to be patient.  
I have never traveled this far with them.  It will be something new for me.   I figure I will not have much quiet time until they all go home on Sunday night. I am alright with that.  They are growing so fast.  For siblings, their personalities are so different.  I love them all....and love who they are turning into. 

One just stumbled out of bed and into where I am.  He is snuggled up against me, still warm from sleeping.  He mumbles *I love you Momdy.  I am so glad you are going with us.*.    We turn the TV from the news.  Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles are on.  The boys totally remind me of the heroes on a half shell.  All bumbling, fumbling getting themselves into trouble....but always do good in the end.

CCoowwaabbuunnggaa DUDE!



Tuesday, June 14, 2016

I NEED A BAD ASS SWORD AND A BANNER...STAT

I have been riveted by the news coming out of Orlando this week.  I have cried a lot.  I do not understand how someone can be so unstable as to kill another human being.  Let alone go somewhere with plans in order to kill several.  I tried to look away.  Many in the middle of it would have loved to look away but they had no choice.


We have all looked away for a long time. 


We never look directly at the problem.  We scream about gun control, people's rights, sexuality, bathrooms, color, brutality, mental health, religion and politicians.  We throw up posts and bible verse's on facebook.   We point fingers outwards but, never at ourselves.  It's always *you*,  *them*,  *those people*, *their kind*.....but, never us.


I believe we are the problem. 


Let me back that up, I cannot even say we.  That softens the blow and makes it sound like a group effort.   Takes some responsibility off of my shoulders.  This, at the core, has to be personal in order to get changed. 


I am the problem.  If I can take responsibility in the way the world is, then I have the power to change it.  I love me some power....trust me on that.


Do I think we need reforms?  Yes, I wholeheartedly do.  I also think it is not up to our government to teach us how to use our brains, get off of our asses and be decent.


You see, that is what I think it all comes down to....love and decency.  Sounds really simple doesn't it?  And yet, I see people throw those two things away as though they were trash.  Daily.  Neither cost us a dime to use.


It is costing us lives to not use them.


I am tired of talking.  I am so tired of talking about problems.  I want us to fix them.  How is that done?  All I know to do is to love out loud.  HONEST TO GOODNESS love people out loud. Especially those different from ourselves.  We get out of our cocoons and we make a different.  We throw those damned pebbles into our part of the pond.


When I thrown my pebble in, it causes ripples.  When you throw yours in, it causes ripples.


Eventually, those ripples come together and the pond is not quiet so big any more.


Year ago, I met with a new client.  At the first meeting, you go over all of their personal things like age, address, employment etc...etc.  So here I am, asking her questions and she is not digging *perky mindy*.  She finally tells me that I can take my Pollyanna fake attitude and shove it *up my ass* (lol, direct quote).  I explained to her it was no attitude and that was just who I am.  Then I asked her for 3 references. She told me that she knew no one and did not have any friends.  I shot back *everyone has friends*. She looked at me for a minute and then said *Well, I'll list my dildo because it is my best friend and never gives me any trouble.*.  I volleyed back *I'll need it's full name and phone number please.*  


I get to meet the neatest people.


It took me years to realize, she really did not have any friends.  She was a very lonely woman.   She was frightened or turned off by my attitude. 


There are a whole lot of lonely people out there.  How did that happen?  When did it become us against them?


How is it fixed?  How am I going to love out loud?


I am going to DO and stop just talking about it.


I am going to write letters to people I love and admire.  Even to people I do not know.   I am going to tell them their value in my life.


I am going to be kind.  That can be calm words or a smile on my face.


I am going to drag you people with me.  I am going to try to motivate people to do the same by my actions.


I am going to be present.


I am going to start leaving people better than I found them.



I am going to write a letter to Lt. Governor  Dan Patrick and tell him how mortified and displeased his use of Bible verses in tweets are to me.  Reap what you sow.  REAP WHAT YOU SOW.   If you sow a *I am so much better than you because I am such a great Christian and an elected politician* you are going to reap Christians that will tell you that you do not speak for me or for my God.  Get off of your high horse and DO something besides hiding behind a bible verse.  I have a verse for you.   Mark 12:31
"The second is this, 'YOU SHALL LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.' There is no other commandment greater than these."



Oh wow, did I chase a rabbit? 


I am mad. I am hurt.  I am lost.


There is no THEY.  THERE IS NO THEY.  There is US.  We are all the same.  Our hatred and bickering are going to kill us.  We have got to be the change.  We have to stop talking and start listening.  We must start doing. WE HAVE TO START LIVING THE BIBLE VERSES INSTEAD OF SAYING THEM.


It is a personal DO verse.  Directed at ourselves and no one else.


I refuse to be afraid of people who are not like me. 


What else can I do?  Tell me.....I am all ears.  What else can I do?


Won't you be my neighbor?



Thursday, June 09, 2016

IT'S A GIRL!!!

I was born Melinda Ray Morris on October 13, 1962.   My middle name is after my grandfather on my mom's side.  I have always loved it.  My mom told me that the whole side of my daddy's family was there and so excited because I was the first grandchild to be born on that side. I like to think about them all being there waiting for me.   It was a Saturday. 

LOL....I don't actually remember that....I was told. 


I got married to the ex the first time in September 1981.  I took his name and have carried it around every since.  Even when we got divorced for the final time, I kept that name for my children's sakes. 


Since then, one got married and got a different name.  The other got smart and ditched it.  There is no one by that last name that I love or care for now or vice versa. 


But here I am still toting it around.    I have carried the name  for 34 year.  I have done the best that I could with it.  Even though I am not fond of it, I spiffied it up and made it count for something.  I made it mine. I have made it a good name.  It's now a name in my world that people hear and not roll their eyes at.   I've made peace with it.  I think I held on to it for so long because I thought that I would eventually  get married again and change my last name. 


I have come to terms with the fact that I will, more than likely, never marry again. 


OMG....I would have been married 34 years this year.  That kind of blows my mind.


No one gets it right.  My last name is always butchered in some form or fashion.  Shoates...Kahote...Chocolate....Chote.....the list goes on and on.
                                              Even the COURT wrote it wrong on the docket!


When I first got this job, I hade a supervisor that called me by my last name.  Only by my last name.  She honestly had no idea how I felt about it or how it still stung.  I hated hearing it roll off her tongue for so many different reasons.   First, because I thought that there was no honor to that name.  Secondly, because it was disrespectful.   By using my name against me, I was kept at arm's length.  That was finally resolved and we eventually became best friends.


I have grown a lot in the last 34 years.   I do not even know who that girl was.  She was so young, full of hope and horribly na├»ve.   Sometimes, it is like watching a Life Time made for tv movie with an actress that looks kind of like me.  A very skinny actress. 


I just know I love who she eventually became.


I have done all I can with this name.  It no longer suits me.  I  have outgrown the name Choate.  I have carried it for as long as I could and I am ready to give it back.....in better condition than when I picked it up.  


I got fingerprinted at the Sherriff's office last week.  Then I went to the District Clerk's office and filed paperwork and paid my $248.00. 


                               SURPRISE!  It's a GIRL!


                               A letter my daddy wrote after I was born.


Today...I went to Court in a room where I have testified hundreds of times before.  This time it was for me.  I asked to have my birth name returned to me.  The name that I was given when I came into this world.  A name that already has honor and love attached to it.  I carried a penny in my pocket.


My request was granted. 


                               HHHEEEEEYYYYYYYY!!!!

The whole thing took less than 4 minutes.  I bet my mom had wished her labor with me was that quick.  

Mindy Morris........just get me a scrabble tile holder and I'll fix it myself.