EXTREMELY IMPORTANT....PLEASE READ
We interrupt this blog for a special announcement:
To the person who found my blog by searching google for *remarried my ex* this post is for you. STOP AND STEP AWAY FROM THE JUSTICE OF THE PEACE UNTIL YOU READ THIS POST.
Hon, don't do it just yet!! I am not trying to rain on your parade. Remarrying someone that you are divorced from may be exactly what it is that you are supposed to do. But, if you are going to remarry someone you have divorced in the past, please go to counseling first...both of you! It is very important. I know that you feel that it is the right thing to do to put a family back together but there is a reason why the marriage broke apart in the first place. That needs to be addressed and worked on first. Then, and only then, should you consider remarrying your ex. Date that person again. Allow yourself time with that person. Please do not rush into anything.
I believed that I was doing the right thing because it *fixed* a broken family. Because I believed that I was doing the right thing, I did not go back and look at what was wrong with the marriage in the first place and address that issue. Everyone was *happy* so I jumped right back in. I also realize that, if I had not remarried my ex, I would not have Bebo now. Baby gator and I cannot imagine a life without Bebo.
So what did I learn? 1) Emotions are not something to base important decisions on. 2) Sometimes people do not want to be the person you know that they are capable of being. 3) God can always bring wonderful things out of a wrong choice if you allow it. 4) We are just as much a family as a two parent family is. We are not and have never been a *broken family* as society would like to label us.
If you want to talk more about it please do not hesitate to email me at: princessandthebeads@yahoo.com
Okay, now back to your regularly scheduled blogging.
To the person who found my blog by searching google for *remarried my ex* this post is for you. STOP AND STEP AWAY FROM THE JUSTICE OF THE PEACE UNTIL YOU READ THIS POST.
Hon, don't do it just yet!! I am not trying to rain on your parade. Remarrying someone that you are divorced from may be exactly what it is that you are supposed to do. But, if you are going to remarry someone you have divorced in the past, please go to counseling first...both of you! It is very important. I know that you feel that it is the right thing to do to put a family back together but there is a reason why the marriage broke apart in the first place. That needs to be addressed and worked on first. Then, and only then, should you consider remarrying your ex. Date that person again. Allow yourself time with that person. Please do not rush into anything.
I believed that I was doing the right thing because it *fixed* a broken family. Because I believed that I was doing the right thing, I did not go back and look at what was wrong with the marriage in the first place and address that issue. Everyone was *happy* so I jumped right back in. I also realize that, if I had not remarried my ex, I would not have Bebo now. Baby gator and I cannot imagine a life without Bebo.
So what did I learn? 1) Emotions are not something to base important decisions on. 2) Sometimes people do not want to be the person you know that they are capable of being. 3) God can always bring wonderful things out of a wrong choice if you allow it. 4) We are just as much a family as a two parent family is. We are not and have never been a *broken family* as society would like to label us.
If you want to talk more about it please do not hesitate to email me at: princessandthebeads@yahoo.com
Okay, now back to your regularly scheduled blogging.
It was not me who found your blog that way, but you are a very wise (and caring) person. The lessons you learned can be applied to many areas of life.
ReplyDeleteGood advice Mindy
ReplyDeleteI couldn't even imagine life without my baby brother. Life without all that crap that we had to go through to get Bebo...yes. But not life without him.
ReplyDeleteAnd I would have missed out on hearing you tell the bus story if it hadn't been for that. That bus story is a good 'un.
ReplyDeleteOh, honey, I didn't know this. Bless your heart (really) and good on you for sharing with this person.
ReplyDeletehugs!
I love it that you cared enough to post this Mindy..
ReplyDeleteBe blessed :)
I got my kids through an unhappy marriage, I thank God for them everyday. You are so totally cool, Mindy. What's going on with the latest swap?
ReplyDeleteWonderful post, Mindy. I hope she listens to your advice.
ReplyDeleteyou're gonna have to re name your blog: "Bits and odd pieces of Mindy's WISDOM!"
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WISE WISE advice. What is it about that ex that pulls so dang hard!? I haven't been married before per se but just having exes out there (before I was married, that is) sometimes really messed with me. It's hard to admit something can't be fixeded.
ya....i cant imagine life with out me..... :(
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