Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Divorce Is Always Difficult

As of today, I have known Rachel for 16 years and 16 days.   My first recollection of her was when I was quietly trying to find the bathrooms at the office.  I looked up and there she was, pointing my way.

Even before meeting her here, our paths had crossed at a little junior high school in Post Texas.  We both attended middle school there at different times. 

Rachel has pointed out my way several times.  She brought out my weirdness.  She is the one that never flinches when I whip out a skull or a dead dolls head to craft with.  Rachel gets me.  She is the only one that I ever considered entering The Amazing Race with, much to Camille's chagrin.  We have different strengths and weaknesses and we KNOW that.  That is what makes us so crazy good.  She has been my cheerleader.  We have traveled together.  We have been comfortable in silence together. She helped me set up my first email address.  She was the one that introducted me to blogging.  She has photographed me with a camel.  How many people have photographed YOU with a camel?

Then on a hot summers day, she quietly sent me a note telling me that she wanted to separate.  I was flabbergasted.  I did not suspect a thing!  I figured she was just going through the middle age crazies and humored her.  I thought to myself  *if you love something let it go.....*

Well, it ain't coming back.

She has already packed and removed all of her things from here.  Her office is empty.....nothing is on the walls and it echos when you go in there.  I tell her it is empty like her soul.

She has carved out her own life without me.  *sniffles*  A life filled with Fridays off, windows in an office and jeans Every.Single.Flipping.Day.

How can I top that?

So, I thought it best that you hear it from me first.  Let me break it to you as gently as I can.

 Mine and Rachel's divorce is final today. 

In the settlement, I retained custody of the tiny calculator in a briefcase, and the jogging in a jug recipe.

Funny thing lasted longer than the two marriages I had to the Ex.   

I have never ever hugged her. Rachel!  I am so happy for you and I wish you all the best!!  You are my friend and I am so very grateful for the time I have had with you next door to me.